Autism and Exposure Anxiety. Don’t look at me!

Exposure AnxietyDoes your child get you to turn the door handle or pick his toys up? Do you sometimes catch him doing things or perhaps even hear him talking or singing to himself when he thinks he’s alone? Does he avoid using personal pronouns? Or is his speech non existent or limited to a few ‘safe’ words or phrases?

If so it is possible that he suffers from Exposure Anxiety (EA); a condition which was identified by Donna Williams in her book Exposure Anxiety—The Invisible Cage. Although the roots of this problem are complex it is similar but far more severe than social anxiety disorder.

EA can be quite crippling as it it causes the person to feel acutely self-conscious and leads to a persistent and overwhelming fear of interaction.  And that makes any attention from other people feel potentially threatening so that the child feels ‘exposed’ each time someone looks at him, talks to him or even compliments him.

Most children cope with this by attempting to ‘block out’ the triggers.  That can lead to some strange reactions as he may ignore the people he likes most or respond to direct praise by losing interest or disowning (or even destroying) his achievements.

The concept of exposure anxiety challenges many common assumptions such as:

* The child is rejecting – for although his actions may indicate that, they do not necessarily relate to his real feelings.
* Stereotyped behaviors should be discouraged – which misses the fact that such behaviors can often be positive – acting as a gateway to learning, a reward, or even a pressure valve which helps the child unwind when he is particularly stressed.
* Bad behavior should be ignored and good behavior should be praised – for while this works for many children, it is counter-productive for children who cannot cope with direct attention.

So how can you help? The best way is to approach things INDIRECTLY so that you avoid triggering the child’s anxiety. Some of the following ideas seem a little strange to start with but even so they can prove extremely effective with some children:

Tops tips

* Indirect communication

– There are times when he wants to do something, but is unable to ask. If so try asking him to do things for another person.  Thus if you think he needs the toilet, suggest he takes a sibling there, as once there he may use the toilet himself.
– If you wish to discuss a particular situation, try talking about it quietly to yourself when you know he can hear. Alternatively, take advantage of his super-sensitive hearing by talking to someone else about it or by talking to a non-existent person on the phone.
– If mealtimes are difficult use a similar approach, suggesting (to someone else) that he should eat separately until he can cope. (If he then joins you at the table, don’t comment – and don’t expect it to happen every time).

* Don’t praise or comment on his achievements directly as he may abandon or destroy them. If you want to reward him, comment indirectly, praising the items he used rather than him, for example, “those crayons drew that picture well”, or alternatively use a star/sticker system which focuses on the achievement rather than on him.

* If he uses you to carry out his actions for him begin by doing things for him and then try to remove your support gradually so that he has to do something himself to complete the action like fetching the biscuit tin for him but only partially opening the lid before you go to do something else.

* Swap roles, for example, when painting or playing an instrument so that you use his hand to make a picture in the sand, bang a drum, etc.

* Model things by using them while he is in the room – but don’t show him how to use them directly as he might reject them altogether.

* Introduce new toys or equipment by leaving them in his room or around the house for him to find but do remember to ignore him if/when he begins to show an interest or use them.

Got tips of your own?  Please share them.

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Stella Waterhouse first came across autism in the late 1960s when she met three very different children, all of whom shared the same diagnosis. She began researching autism in 1990 and is a published author of several books including A Positive Approach to Autism which attracted good reviews from such well known autism experts as Donna Williams and Paul Shattock OBE. She has also authored a series of concise but informative books for parents and teachers, and is currently completing her forthcoming series The Autism Code.

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Comments

  1. Susan Dunne Susan Dunne says:

    This isn’t limited to children. Adults can experience a lot of this too – I particularly identified with the third paragraph. It’s easy to forget that autism is a lifelong condition.